So, you've been with your man a while now and want to take the next step. You're ready to marry him, but he's not taking any of your hints. Unfortunately, you are one of millions of women the world over who can't get the man they love to commit to marrying them.
For a start, marriage should not become an obsession. There are different levels of commitment. If marrying him is essential for religious reasons then it must have been discussed at some time. He knows your beliefs and ethics, so if he still won't commit it's time to move on. If on the other hand, you just WANT to be married, ask yourself why. Surely the important thing is sharing your life with the one that you love? If you are determined to marry that man of yours, then read on.
The problem is that most women put a time frame on relationships. Everything has to happen by a certain date. They generally allow 2 years from the beginning of the relationship until the diamond ring is on their finger. Men don't think like this. As long as they're happy, they don't care if they're with you for 2 years or 10.
What motivation do they have to marry you? Men are notorious for wanting what they don't have. If you already act like a wife and he has a good life, why waste a fortune on a technicality?
Sit him down and talk calmly and maturely. If this is a long term relationship this shouldn't be a problem. If this is a new relationship, you shouldn't be even considering marriage yet! Find out if marriage may be further down the line, or if he just doesn't want to marry you. If the answer is the latter then you are very unlikely to change his mind without a complete personality and lifestyle makeover.
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