If you're a woman, chances are that at some point, you've been puzzled by the apparent mystery that are male emotions (or lack thereof!), and that you've searched for some kind of magic formula to make a man fall in love with you.
The problem with this is assuming that one formula will work for every man. If it were that simple, most people would be deliriously happy in their relationship simply by applying a set of behaviors that triggers the desired response in a partner.
Unfortunately, but also fortunately, we are all different enough that the same behavior can cause different responses in different people. That's why I'm only promising you 'the best odds at it'.
It's crucial, however, that you are completely confident in your ability to make it happen. Confidence is a key element in being attractive, for women and men alike. Confidence is not arrogance, or petulance, or acting like a diva. These are usually turn-offs.
The type of confidence men like in women can be described as being comfortable in your own skin; being okay with who you are.
* This is the first step: feeling good about yourself and exuding this feeling. This is the cornerstone of attraction, beyond any formulas.
Have something going for you, something you're passionate about that isn't him. You may feel your life is lacking a man, but I want you to think of this differently... I want you to instead cultivate the feeling that your life is full and complete, and that you want a man to share in this completeness.
See how both statements are similar, and yet very different?
Now, usually, when I get asked the question, "How do I get a man to fall in love with me?", I first ask who the man is: Is he an intellectual? An alpha-male? An artist type? Does he have a sense of humor? What are the most important things in the world for him? Etc.
* So, the second step I propose involves a bit of detective work, and it consists in finding out what makes your man unique. How is your man different from the 'typical' guy?
We talked about how we're all different enough that we can't predict 100% how someone will react to what we do or say. But by the same token, there are common traits, instincts and social patterns that we share, and which allow us to perform our own 'mating dance' of sorts, on our way to seducing and winning someone's heart.
Relying on what's common and predictable about men and women in terms of seduction and relationships, my third step is:
* Follow a good seduction method, and tailor it to who you are and who the man you want to attract is.
There are a lot of good seduction guides out there. My top two are Mirabelle Summers' "Get a Guy Guide" (check out this review) and Amy Waterman's "How to Be Irresistible to Men."
To recap then, my steps to make a man fall in love with you are: 1-Feel confident and attractive; 2-Know the man you want to seduce; 3-Follow a good method. You can do it!
Andrew Lamar is a relationship expert and a regular contributor to http://LoveAdviceToday.com/, a free resource for advice on dating and relationships.
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